8 Meaningful Ways to Empower Your Son or Nephew (This International Men’s Day)

Well, I couldn’t do a post about empowering daughters and forget about our amazing sons, could I?

Having 'one of each' has really shown me how differently society treats boys and girls. Right from babyhood, where if you didn't know them you wouldn't have known whether they were a boy or a girl, I noticed how differently people spoke to them.

International Men's Day is a perfect opportunity to reflect on how we raise boys - not to squash their emotions or force “toughness,” but to help them grow into confident, empathetic and emotionally intelligent men.

Here are simple, everyday ways to empower the boys in your life.

1. Encourage Empathy

Teaching empathy helps boys understand and respect others’ feelings.

Example: When he sees a friend upset, say, “How do you think they feel? What could you do to help?” Empathy is a lifelong skill - and it’s just as important for boys as it is for girls.

2. Teach Him to Be the Change He Wants to See

Empowerment comes from action. Example: If he notices someone behaving unkindly, ask, “What could we do to help?” This teaches agency, responsibility and that even small actions matter.

3. Remind Him He Doesn’t Have to Be Everyone’s Strength

Boys often feel pressure to 'be strong' all the time. Example: Say things like, “It’s okay to feel tired, scared or sad. You don’t always have to be the strong one.” Validating emotions builds resilience and self-acceptance.

4. Be Affectionate and Loving

Physical and verbal affection matters. Example: Hugs, high-fives, a kiss on the forehead or just saying, “I love you” regularly. Affection teaches that love and strength coexist.

5. Don’t Label Him

Avoid limiting language like “boys don’t cry” or “be tough.” Example: Instead of, “Boys shouldn’t play with dolls,” try, “You can play with whatever you like - it’s fun, right?”

Labels constrain identity; freedom encourages confidence.

6. Ask How He Feels - And Listen

Encourage conversation without judgment. Example: “Hey, how was your day?” Follow up with gentle prompts: “Tell me more about that.” This models emotional literacy and shows that feelings are valid.

7. Celebrate His Unique Qualities

Point out the strengths and kindnesses you notice. Example: “You were so patient helping your friend.” “You made someone smile today - that’s powerful.” This helps him internalise positive traits without pressure to conform to stereotypes.

8. Model Respect, Courage and Integrity

Children watch more than they listen. Show him how to act with kindness and courage.

Example:“Watch how I politely speak up when something isn’t fair.” “Let’s solve this problem together.” This reinforces values more effectively than any lecture.

And Here’s the Important Part…

Of course, all of these strategies can (and should) be said to girls too. Confidence, empathy, emotional expression and self-respect aren’t gendered. Society may often treat boys and girls differently - but we can raise children of any gender who are strong, kind and empowered. If you loved these tips, check out my companion guide on International Women's Day, full of ways to empower daughters, nieces and girls in your life.

Hi, I’m Emma, Early Childhood Expert and founder of Everyday. My goal is simple: help parents understand their children better so every stage feels a little easier.

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